Unplanned pregnancies can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re uncertain about how loved ones will respond. Choosing life is a courageous and loving decision—one that reflects strength, responsibility, and hope. Telling your family and friends may not be easy, but honesty and openness can build a supportive community around you during this new chapter.
Below, we offer a compassionate guide to help you share the news with grace, courage, and clarity.
Before the Conversation: Prepare Your Heart and Mind
Before talking to others, it’s important to take time for yourself:
- Write down your thoughts to organize what you want to say.
- Seek support from a trusted counselor, pastor, friend or a pregnancy resource clinic like First Choice Clinic.
- Accept that not everyone may react positively—but know that your decision to choose life is something to be proud of.
When You’re Ready: How to Start the Conversation
Here are some talking points to help guide your discussion:
1. Begin with honesty and love
- “I have something important to share, and I hope you’ll listen with an open heart.”
- “This wasn’t something I planned, but I want to be honest with you.”
2. Share the news clearly and calmly
- “I’m pregnant. It was unexpected, and I’ve had to think deeply about what this means.”
- “This has been a big emotional journey for me, and I wanted you to hear it from me directly.”
3. Reaffirm your values and decision
- “I believe that this life matters, and I’ve made the decision to carry this child.”
- “It wasn’t an easy decision, but I feel at peace knowing I’m choosing what’s best for me and this baby.”
4. Express your needs and boundaries
- “I’m not asking for all the answers—I just need support and understanding right now.”
- “I know this might come as a shock, but what I need most is your love, not judgment.”
5. Offer practical information if appropriate
- “I’ve already connected with a support system and they’re helping me navigate my next steps.”
- “I’m considering all my options for how to raise the child or possibly place for adoption, but I want to make sure the baby is safe and loved.”
6. Reassure them of your commitment
- “I’m taking responsibility, and I’m seeking help to do what’s best for the baby and myself.”
- “This isn’t something I take lightly. I’m working to create a stable, loving environment.”
7. Acknowledge their feelings
- “I know this might be hard for you to hear.”
- “I understand if you need time to process. I’m here when you’re ready to talk more.”
Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone
Choosing life is a beautiful and courageous act—even when it’s hard. Remember that your story isn’t over; it’s just beginning. There are countless families, faith communities, and organizations ready to walk beside you with emotional, financial, and practical support.
You may be surprised at the love and strength that comes when you share your journey with others. No matter how others respond, you are never alone—and you are making a decision rooted in hope, dignity, and love.
At First Choice Clinic, we are committed to walking alongside you during this time to provide you with practical tools, resources and support that you need.